When you don’t feel the LOVE 💔

// Jesus answered him, “Love the Lord your God with every passion of your heart, with all the energy of your being, and with every thought that is within you. // Matthew‬ ‭22:37

I remember the times when I would look at this verse and honestly feel hopeless.

You see, I would desperately want to love God this way. I would desperately want to love people this way. I would desperately want to love myself this way.

But I looked at my feelings and they wouldn’t line up. I didn’t understand how God could be calling me to do something that didn’t come naturally many times.

{ i didn’t understand how I could call myself a Christian, but have a hard time loving the Christ who saved me… }

I wouldn’t always have that fuzzy, passionate feeling towards God and it would discourage me. And best believe, DISCOURAGEMENT is an easy door for the enemy to get into our head. It was tempting to believe that since I didn’t feel love towards God, I couldn’t possibly be a true believer. I couldn’t possibly be saved. I couldn’t possibly love Him like I proclaimed.

The enemy is such a LIAR 🤥 .

Guess what? God never called us to love Him, others or ourselves strictly by feelings alone. And the best part is, we have more control then we give ourselves credit for.

// so above all, guard the affections of your heart, for they affect all that you are. Pay attention to the welfare of your innermost being, for from there flows the wellspring of life. // Proverbs‬ ‭4:23‬

I love how this verse tell us to GUARD our heart. This is propelling us to take action. God knows that our hearts are easily influenced by the world around us and since they are the SEAT of the our emotions, it’s easy for our feelings to take center stage and start to rule our lives. Love is truly a choice, but I would wonder why it was hard to even make the choice to love.

God has shown me that it’s hard to make the choice to love Him, other people and myself when I let negative things influence my heart. When I let that negative self-talk be the microphone for my day. When I keep bad company around me that are not building me up, but dragging me down. When I let what other people think of me be the compass for my decisions. When I look at what’s going on in the world more then what’s going on in God’s truth. God fills our heart up with love, but when we let these things take up space in our life, these things start to poke holes into our heart and love leaks out. Then we look up one day… and we see the passion we had for everything is gone.


Hope is found in the fact that love is a choice and I’m so grateful that is truth. I’m so grateful that when I do find myself with a leaking heart, I can make the choice to watch what’s in my heart, change my perspective and choose to love God out of a choice I made, that goes beyond feelings. This is when love is truly manifested.

It’s so freeing to know that true love is not this free-falling, uncontrolled emotion without no anchor. When I saw my relationships this way, even my relationship with God, and the emotions left, It was easy to be tricked into thinking that I didn’t love Him anymore. I’m learning that when I choose to love and make love a habit and a lifestyle, the feelings and passion start to catch up.

{ love is a choice anchored by commitment. }


My prayer is that you feel empowered and confident in the fact that you have the ability and capacity to love, even when your feelings tell you otherwise.

You have the ability to love yourself because you are worthy.

You have the ability to love others because God first loved them.

You have the ability to love God because He first loved YOU.

All it takes is the choice to believe these things and walk in them.

Because when you choose love, know that love never fails.


// until then, there are three things that remain: faith, hope, and love—yet love surpasses them all. So above all else, let love be the beautiful prize for which you run. // 1 Corinthians‬ ‭13:13‬

much love & peace,